Read it before you decide anything
The whole method, on paper
Diederik Wolsak wrote this so the work would not depend on him. The Six Steps to Freedom are set out in full — enough to take a reaction you had this week and follow it down to what is underneath.
No retreat required. No course to buy first. Most people read it at their kitchen table and come to a circle later, if at all.
Where to Buy It"From his early sorrows, and from the later suffering he engendered for himself as a result, Diederik Wolsak has fashioned a practical, Six Step program to self-liberation. He transmits his teaching directly and eloquently, and with unsparing honesty. He has already helped many fellow humans; with this book he can help many more."
Gabor Maté, M.D. — author of When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
What is inside
Six steps, taken one at a time
The steps only make sense applied to something ordinary — an argument, a flare of resentment, a moment of shame on a perfectly average Tuesday. That is where they are meant to be used, and it is where they work.
1
Awareness
Seeing the pattern clearly, without judgment.
2
Willingness
Choosing to look at what is underneath it.
3
Core Belief
Naming the specific belief generating it.
4
Responsibility
Recognizing you are the source, not the victim, of it.
5
Forgiveness
A specific process for releasing the belief.
6
Choose Again
Consciously choosing what replaces it.
Who it is for
Three good reasons to start here
You want to try it privately
Nobody has to know you are reading it. For a lot of people that matters, and it is a perfectly good place to begin.
You are considering a retreat
Read this first. You will arrive knowing the vocabulary and the shape of the work, and you will get considerably more from the week.
You are giving it to someone
It asks nothing of them. A book can be left on a table and picked up whenever they are ready, which is often easier than a conversation.
Praise for the book
What others have said about the Six Steps
"It is with great enthusiasm that we recommend this book to you; treat it with utmost respect—for it has the power and the potential to truly change your life."
Gerald Jampolsky, M.D.
Founder of Attitudinal Healing
Co-author of A Mini Course for Life and Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
Diane Cirincione-Jampolsky, Ph.D.
Founder and Executive Director of Attitudinal Healing International
Co-author of A Mini Course for Life and Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
"There is a lot of wisdom packed into this small life-changing volume. It is not just another self-help book that will sit on the shelf, but if you dive deeply into its contents and put them into practice in your life, you will never have to buy another – this is all you need."
"I have used the Choose Again Six-Step Process for over 15 years and have managed to completely heal my chronic clinical depression, transform my relationship with my husband from OK to awesome, and can now welcome life's many challenges with a clear sense that nothing need reduce my happiness in any way. I did not even realize how little joy I was experiencing until I started using the Choose Again Six-Step Process."
"Diederik's own remarkable, heart-wrenching story forms the backdrop to this book and sets the stage for his therapeutic technique – the Six-Step Process. Therapists, teachers, parents and anyone who would like a better experience in life than the one they are currently having will be enthralled by the simplicity and profundity of this book."
Anne Andrew, Ph.D.
Where to buy it
Get a copy
Outside the United States? It is also on Amazon Canada.
Not ready to buy anything? The practice guide below is free, and the daily meditation costs nothing either.
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Or try the steps before you buy anything
We will send you the practice guide — the six steps written out with an example worked through, so you can use them the next time something comes up.
Use it and never speak to us again, and that is a good outcome as far as we are concerned.
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What the steps do over time
From people still using them years later
"I have been working with the Six Step Process for about 15 years now, and it has become my automatic response to my upsets. What I LOVE about it is that it is so brilliantly clear."
Donna Hone
"The Choose Again Six Step process has been the most empowering and transformational work I've ever studied and now do personally and share with clients and students daily."
Tara Pilling — Canada
"For me, this process and work has saved my life and sanity. A true gift!"
Priya Beate Laasch — Canada
After the book
Reading the steps and doing them are different things
Steps two and four are hard to do honestly alone, because they are precisely the ones you have been avoiding. When you want somebody alongside you, the monthly circle is the easiest way in — online, ninety minutes, pay what you can.
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